What Are Affirmations
Planting the Seeds
Positive affirmations have had a great impact on my life over the last several years. And I've found that repeating positive phrases with intention and trust has ultimately helped get me out of some seriously shitty head space... losing my parents, a cancer diagnosis, persistent anxiety... It wasn't an overnight success but speaking kindly and supportively to myself eventually became natural and comforting. {As it should be, right?!}
HOW I USE AFFIRMATIONS
I tend to write affirmations down that serve me in that moment (that moment being an hour, a day, a week, a month… whatever- you get it). I carry them around in my purse on sticky notes, create reminders on my phone which pop up at random times, scribble them in my planner, I repeat them in my head and often use them as intentions during my yoga practice. Of course, there are no hard rules for self affirmations- only what works and feels right for you.
SO WHAT IS A POSITIVE AFFIRMATION?
Simply put, they are positive words, phrases, and statements that are used to challenge negative thoughts. They can motivate and boost low self-esteem or encourage an overall positive shift in your life. They can help to decrease stress and increase feelings of self worth.
Daily affirmations are designed to alter the beliefs we have about ourselves so that we think more positively. Personally, I truly believe that our thoughts create our actions and our actions create our reality. For example, if we’re constantly inundating ourselves with negative thoughts, we will take negative actions (or lack of action)... thus creating our reality.
A FEW WAYS TO GET THE BEST OUT OF YOUR CARDS:
Feel It
Connection is key. You don’t want to just grab at any affirmation. Or jack your pal’s affirmation of choice if it doesn’t really speak to you. You feel me?
Say It As If It Already Is
The most important part of this practice- at least as I believe- is that your affirmations are worded in the present as if they/you already ‘are’. For example, if you are wanting to channel inner strength, you would say “I am filled with strength and courage” instead of “I will be strong”.
Let It Happen
If you try to force it, you may resent it. Not just affirmations… but so many things in life. Let the practice of affirming become a natural and organic part of your day. Trusting in the process and repeating them daily will help to reprogram your mind in a positive manner.
Be Positive
Be specific to what you do want instead of what you don’t want. Our subconscious tends to skip words like not, don’t, won’t. An example of this would be “I radiate positivity” instead of “I won’t be a total bitchwad today”.
Trust
If you are pulling an affirmation card from a deck, close your eyes and take a couple of centering breaths. Trust that whichever card you pull is the card that is meant for you in that moment. If a card ‘jumps out at you’ trust that you are absolutely meant to have this card.
Breathe. Affirm. Repeat.